So we fell fell fell. The last words she
said to me were, We didnt fail; we just didnt bother
trying. Nobody told us it wouldnt work, it wasnt in the plan.
My grandparents stayed together, my parents, everyone we knew, even the
miserable ones, even the ones who were eating each other for breakfast. You had
to give the problems time. Theyd sort themselves out. And if they
didnt tough. After all, what would the neighbours say? Or the
family. We were engaged in emotional investment here. Building blocks for the
future. It was the way life worked. Knock one and you knock them all,
like dominoes. It wasnt like changing your fridge or your TV set just
because it malfunctioned. We were people, dammit.
The last balloon popped and we sang Auld
Lang Syne to the people around us. Not because we liked them but because
they were there. We were drinking Prosecco, the make-believe champagne,
and making make-believe love. Champagne for my real friends, she
said, and real pain for my sham friends. Id heard all her
little jokes before just like shed heard mine but that didnt
stop her repeating them. What else was there to do now but go through the
motions, speaking our lines like two bad actors in a play most people had
forgotten, or stopped caring about.
I was the last one there, a familiar
situation for me, too drunk to stay awake, too drunk to go to sleep, too drunk
to go to bed with anyone or even myself, emptying other peoples drinks
into me as I sat in the half-dark, waiting for the sun to come up while a
needle playing Miles Davis scratched on a forgotten record player and she sat
across from me checking her watch, her hemline, her nails, her
Well, she said.
Its time to
It might have been a metaphor for the
night, for all our nights together as she marshalled the practical details that
kept her happy. Discipline was important to her, deadlines. And we were
What were we going back to - each other?
Someone else? Each other under the pretence of someone else? I looked at
her through bloodshot eyes and wondered who she was, who I was, where the day
would bring us. We were in Act Two of our marriage, the scene where the
outraged wife throws the drunken husband out. What drink would you like,
dear? she asks and he replies, Gin and tonic, dear, without the
tonic. Unfortunately this drama wouldnt play out quite as
efficiently as one on Broadway or the West End. When I was drunk I saw
everything crystal clear. When we were dating she accepted my weakness,
indulged it. But now shed sooner have me drink hemlock.
Everyone was gone. We were alone with
our mutual hatred. I smelt the oncoming dawn. Could we make one last stab
at tolerance, pretend the last six years never happened? No. We were like
Adam and Eve in some poisoned garden without our fig leaves, like any other
couple bereft of a place to hide, mortgaging our lives as she accused me of
drinking away our fortune, a fortune that was never there in the first place
though it didnt suit her to admit that. Its the
economy, stupid, I said to her, blaming the recession, and your
reckless spending. I didnt see alcohol spending as reckless. You
never do. Why waste money on cabbage that could be spent on Cuvee
She rang the taxi, poured black coffee
into me, apologised to the host. He gave an affectionate sigh as she dug
out my coat from under the fifty others in what I called the futility
Now buster, she said,
one arm at a time. She spoke as if I was six years old, and
maybe I was.
Why do you drink so much?
she asked me.
Why do you nag so much? I
All you alcoholics have to give
yourselves reasons to guzzle
Maybe, but youre a
better one than most.
Did I drink because she fell out of love
with me or did she fall out of love with me because I drank? It was the old
chestnut. She told me she could fight other women but not Arthur Guinness. It
was a good line but it wasnt true. She couldnt fight either of them
and neither could I.
The taxi arrived and the sun came up. We
drove to the home that wasnt a home and got inside the door. It was only
then I started crying, for her and for myself and what wed become and
what we hadnt become, the six years of nothing masquerading as success,
thrown open now into the nakedness of the morning, the silence laughing at us
in that big house with the billiard table lawn and the bay window, space and
more space and the pair of us wanting to say these things but too mixed up to
do that or even to admit a mistake because there was too much to lose now in
the endgame of compromise.
What now? she asked but
I was too sick to answer her, too sick trying to contemplate a future for
myself from the detritus of yet another false start. I told myself this was the
end at last, the insanity of the night turning into the insanity of the dawn. I
looked at myself in the mirror and wondered who I was, who she was, if we could
ever forgive each other for the sin of meeting, or the later sin of
falling so far out of love we nearly met each other on the way back.
She left with the taxi driver. It must
have been some run for him, first depositing me here and then her to her mother
to bitch about me and work out the division of the spoils. It was an
appropriate term for we had indeed spoiled everything.
Afterwards she took up with a man from
Wolverhampton, more humble than the usual Brit, an antidote to me she said. She
could have put it less politely. I was grateful to him for taking her off my
hands. If she was happy, I thought, she wouldnt needle me. But there was
so much damage done to her mind from her time with me I didnt know
if she could be happy with anyone. She enjoyed hating me too much.
How was it that two lives that seemed to
be going in the same direction for so long could take off so suddenly in
another direction and cut out all the things that made the work together?
It was like a fugue missing a beat, a blot at the end of the
rainbow, a lock without the combination. I racked my brains for the reason as I
remembered the early days, days when a minute away from her was like an
eternity, when even being in the same room as her was a thrill. I wondered what
shed be wearing, how shed look, how I was doing with her. And then
we got married and everything settled into the routines of just being together.
She busied herself about the house and I pretended to be interested in such
things. Then she became bored with that and got into New Wave movies and TM. I
wouldnt have minded that but it didnt seem to be her. She seemed to
be trying to invent an identity to suit her new status as she organised coffee
mornings and tried to get in touch with her inner feminist. Meanwhile I
dumbed myself down and started going out with my old friends, people she
referred to as lowlifes.
They de-stress me, I
They dehumanise you, she
The problems didnt start then;
this was expectable. They didnt even start when we began to take each
other for granted, or when we started arguing. They started when we took the
arguments for granted, when we forgot what they were even about.
I despise you, she said to
me one night.
I bet you say that to all the
guys, I replied.
The death of our love became a kind of
protection to us, a shell. It would have been far worse if one of us still
loved the other, if we had something to lose or fight for. This way the
shared memory of pain made it more bearable. All we needed was a pen to sign
along the dotted line.
Where did we go wrong? Maybe it
didnt matter. One day a friend said to me, Sometimes there
doesnt have to be a reason, sometimes thats just the way things
are. He consoled me when I lost my job, when the solicitor told me
Id probably lose my house.
She was behind that. Her hatred of me
knew no bounds. I couldnt understand it. Did she not realise that most
people broke up these days, that it was almost in the nature of things? Maybe
it was as simple as the law of diminishing returns, or even the law of
gravity. What went up had to come down. The moon in June became the
What I didnt bank on was just how
bitter that harvest was. Could you ever really know a woman until you fell out
of love with her, or she fell out of love with you? She blamed me for it as if
I was outside it. She forgot I was suffering too. I didnt sign up
for this, I said to her, Divorce wasnt in the contract, not
even in the small print. But she just glared at me.
I ran into her a few months ago with her
new man. She was wearing a leopardskin blouse I used to love but now it seemed
to make her look predatory. I didnt know what to say to her. As I
looked at her I felt like someone whod just rung a doorbell in an empty
She had her sunglasses on over her head.
When I looked down at her stomach I saw she was pregnant. She seemed to be
trying to hide it.
When is it due? I
When is what due? she
Dont feel guilty, I
said, This makes everything very straightforward..
Shed always denied sleeping with
him, even when I found them in what we might call a compromising position one
time when we were still married. Its not what it looks like,
she had said on that occasion, sounding like someone from a bad movie,
Nothing happened. Then, as now, I tried to reassure her, telling
her the marriage was over so what did it matter.
Were not sleeping together
if thats what youre thinking, she said.
The last time that happened,
I said to her, there was a star in the East.
I couldnt understand why she was
being so demure. Did she think shed get more money from me in the divorce
if she didnt have a man?
She walked off in a huff and he turned
on me, taking a swipe at me. In a strange way it felt good.
What was that for? I
For making Dorothy
miserable, he said.
I tried to tell him Dorothy was the main
one responsible for making Dorothy miserable but he didnt want to hear
it. She had seduced him as she once seduced me, with her silken tongue. She was
his property and he was her property and I was to be let out with the cat. And
maybe I was happier there, out among the dustbins. Anything I said could be
used in evidence against me, as they said in the old crime films. So I said
nothing. Maybe I wanted to keep my house and my billiard table lawn after all.
It was just as well we didnt have
any children. Maybe we were children ourselves. It was actually the thing I
liked best about her but she didnt know that, didnt know she was a
child or that I liked it. If she did shed have stopped, or tried to stop.
She hated me too much to have my child. It would be poisoned seed,
she taunted. If she believed that, and I think she did, it was better she
didnt conceive by me. After a year of marriage we stopped sleeping
together but preserved the illusion of wedded bliss for those we knew. Oh
but you must come over and see us, they demanded. Sometimes we did, and
put on plastic smiles for the night.
Tonight its cold. Outside
smoke billows from a chimney. The branches of my yew tree snake
their way to the sky. In the distance two lights flash. I listen to the
voice of Tom Waits droning like a drunk rhinoceros and time stands still. I
have no regrets about anything that happened or didnt happen. We were who
we were or werent. I can forgive her if she can forgive me, if we
can forgive one another for the sin of being ourselves.
Tomorrow Ill be moving out of
here. Exit at noon or the bailiff will fine you. Thats what she said, in
a voice that made me listen. Its a funny feeling inhabiting a building
where Im a tenant tonight and tomorrow an intruder. Maybe Ill feel
a sense of adventurousness in being homeless. Or maybe Ill just feel
The clock ticks like a metronome,
sounding out the time left to me. The more I listen to it, the louder it seems.
Each second is precious to me as I gaze out at the empty streets, the
changing contours of the sky. Ive never liked goodbyes but tonight is
different. Tonight theres nobody to say goodbye to.
Goodbye table, goodbye chair, goodbye
polkadot wallpaper, goodbye radio that never worked, goodbye favourite cup with
a crack in it..
wife? No, that doesnt
sound right. Besides, I dont know where she is.
I look around me at the dead walls, the
dead furniture. Everything Im bringing with me is in a small case that
sits in front of me: the heritage of six years. Its amazing how
much you can downsize when you put your mind to it. How much clutter do we
gather around ourselves when theres nobody to tell us most of it is junk?
But maybe we need junk possessions just like we need junk food.
My life in a suitcase. Who would have
thought it would end like this? Where Im going there wont be much
space. She can have the antique furniture, the Dresden dolls. Where Im
going will hardly have room for such delicacies. You cant fit a cocktail
cabinet in a phone box.
I wont be bringing our wedding
photo. In fact I have to resist the temptation to rip it up. I look at it now
and smile ruefully. Im standing there in my tweed suit with an expectant
look on my face as if I have some right to be happy. Shes more guarded.
Maybe she knew something I didnt
Earlier today I got drunk again. I
thought about emigrating, leaving it all behind. But will there be anything to
leave once her lawyers get to work on it? And where would I emigrate to? No
matter where you go youre still you. You still have to make that other
journey inside your head and try and forgive yourself for the sins she said you
committed. You could walk down strange streets under strange suns but you would
still be yourself, still looking for reasons, get-out clauses,
Im too old to start Part Two of my
life, too old to end Part One. I cant meet anyone new and Im not
sure I want to. And yet I hate the familiar.
Your wife didnt do anything
wrong, the counsellor said to me, You were just too hard to pin
down. I swallowed his cliches because it was easier than arguing with
him. He had plaques on his wall and letters after his name and my solicitor
told me it would look good if I got on with him so I got on with him even
though he was an idiot. If he said two and two was five I would have agreed
with him. Life was always easier if you agreed with people. Marriage would have
been easier if I kept agreeing with Dorothy.
But I didnt, and now we are where
we are. No love, no house, no prospects. Inevitable, no doubt, considering the
circumstances. Two can live as cheaply as one, my father used to
say. Now one may starve. Every divorce, of course, eventually comes down to
money. We may shout about outrage and injustice but at the end of the day what
its all about is that little five lettered word that makes most
peoples world revolve. And some peoples stop revolving.
If she takes enough of it off me
Ill be her slave. That may be what she wants. Maybe it would assuage some
of her pain. The Germans call it schadenfreude. I call it
I think I know how its going to
pan out. Shell accuse me of hiding my money and Ill accuse her of
hiding her fancyman . Well both put our best foot forward for the
solicitor as we did once for each other when different things were important.
In the end shell probably win because shes better at giving
Oscar-winning performances when it counts. For ever and ever, ah men. Pass Go.
I can already see her in her Burberry
coat, standing at the front of the courtroom with her list of expenses under
her arm, a smile of victory playing about her lips. Shell list my
spending habits, my emotional emptiness, my abject unsuitability for marriage.
Ill see my life laid out before me like that of a stranger, only
recognising the bits shell grudgingly display to drive home some deeper
point. Even then Ill probably be attracted to her seeing her again as I
espy her in all her finery. I doubt Ill ever lose what first drew me
to her, that intense self-confidence, that self-aggrandising drive. Ill
want to put my arms around her but if I do that Ill probably be locked
up. A handshake might be permitted, my solicitor told me, but
count your fingers afterwards.
There will be a certain satisfaction for
her in bleeding me dry, it will be a kind of revenge for the fact that it
didnt work out between us, as if Im somehow responsible for her own
inner unhappiness. Ill probably let her have what she wants because I
dont really care any more. Maybe theres a kind of purity in having
nothing rather than little. With nothing you can start your new life better.
With a little youre more inclined to hark back to your old
The bottom line is that we brought out
the worst in each other. We made each other realise just how cruel one human
being can be to another when theyre suffering. How wonderful an
institution marriage is to facilitate this.
Today I fell off the wagon again. When
youre drunk you dont feel the pain as you fall. My psychologist
tells me I need something else in my life to stop me drinking. Its
like your second wife, he says. Hes probably right, except you can
trust alcohol, unlike wives. A drink wont walk out on you like they do.
When I find a wife I can trust Ill give it up. Maybe.
I drink a beer and then another one. The
second one is nicer because by that stage the guilt is gone.
There was a time I used to be an
idealist, to care about issues. These days everything is more concrete, more
basic. You do what you have to do because it gets you from a to b, even if you
have to go through c or even z to get there. Life is easy when you make
it mechanical. I dont think, therefore I am.
If she came back to me tomorrow Id
probably take her. Because what else is there? But she wont come back.
Shell do me that mercy at least. Meanwhile Ill plod on. I
wont try to make things happen, Ill just let them happen.
Sufficient unto the day will be the evil thereof.
Ill get my dole and look at the
other poor souls doing their 40 hours, licking up to their bosses, filling
their petrol tanks and doing their shopping and not walking on the grass and
getting their golf handicaps down and washing their teeth every night and
eating their greens and stopping at yellow lights and buying houses near
schools as they plan families and only using bad language after the kids are
gone to bed. Oh and never looking at women with sin in their hearts, or going
the way of all flesh. Until one day on the road to Damascus the divine light
shines on them.
Maybe Ill make one last burst for
grandeur, or even normality. Maybe Ill sell myself to the highest bidder.
Heres the ad: One ageing bachelor, cured of passion, capable of
great things now, shopsoiled but optimistic, Contact Box 3C. Or maybe buy
me on eBay, best before 2025.
Ill be decrepit then. Maybe
Im decrepit now.
Where did I go wrong? When did the dream
die? I was encased in cotton wool growing up, encased in glass. People cared
then. My world was a Hollywood one, the yellow brick road. My mother loved me,
it was enough to be going on with. Other women followed, those who
promised the earth but delivered only that. Dorothy was the big one, though,
and yet she probably promised less than all the others put together. Maybe that
was why I thought wed last.
The dawn is coming in now, throwing
pools of light into the room. Its coming up to the time of day I like
best, that half light that promises something intangible. The birds are
fluttering in the trees, the moon sinks into a violet bed of its own
The world is getting close, the sun is
dying. Rain creeps over the roofs. I feel my heart beating against my chest.
The sky is like steel.
I want to sleep so I can forget, forget
my mistakes and maybe make new mistakes.
People give me advice on how to live but
theres no advice you can give, theres only the living.
I watch agony aunts and agony uncles on
television shows but theres nothing they can do either.
Theyre just in love with their own voices, and whatever gullible people
fate throws in their path.
The television is on the floor. I watch
news broadcasts about earthquakes and other global tragedies but feel immune to
them. We can only see our own bubbles. Once upon a time the world was my
oyster; now an oyster is my world.
But things always look worse at night.
In the morning Ill be calm again. The condemned man will eat a hearty
breakfast. Then Ill put the last relics of the past into a kitbag, turn
on the engine of my car and drive to the next good thing.